I would one day..

I am terrible at living in the present tense. However hard I try to live each day to the fullest without planning/dreaming/hoping/dreading(!) about the future, I can not! (I never have regrets about the past though..hmmm....) Not that I have not bettered myself through the years but I still have a long long way to go!

And from here comes this feeling that 'One day I will do _______' whatever, everything!

Bad, as it maybe to miss out on today to want to catch the future, once you have achieved one of those dreams, however inconsequential, it feels the best!!!

I have achieved one such teeny-meeny thing. This feeling of having come here is much bigger and better than this 'thing' that I had decided to do one day!!

:)

And then I already have my eyes set on that another thing that I would do one day....!!!!!

K-Factor Part II

All right now, a lot of times I write reviews of a movie and mostly end up saying stuff that makes some sense. But for KANK I seem to have missed the point in the game......................Or Not.

Whichever movie review - online, in newspapers or on TV channels - I read or listened to, first of all told me the movie is wonderful! (Fat Marketing budgets can get you this one!) And then they start talking about the 'Pandora's Box' that this movie seemingly has opened. I mean, heellllooooo??? Am I blind or is the world going black??

Say what you will but through the maze of terrifically poor direction, I just could not REACH the subject matter. To tell a story is an art. And to make audiences think about the story is even more difficult and can be achieved by only a few accomplished ones. And clearly Mr. K does not make it there – 'least not this time. (Perhaps in future! Who knows?!)

And now having heard and read so much about the actual subject matter of this film OR more appropriately the infidelity issue or the issue of finding your soul mate (duhhh....) after marriage; Get Real!

I don’t know about soul mate and stuff but infidelity, its all around you. Open your eyes and you will see it. (You need to even look at super rich NRIs who conveniently have affairs without ruffling too many feathers back home. Remember Salaam Namaste?!) They are all around you. Simple people we meet everyday. In every walk of life.

Is it disturbing? Well, not to me! They are not breaking law, mind you! None of them are BAD! They are as wonderful individuals as you are. When will we learn that each individual is different – Unique. And there are really no blacks and whites in this world. What is ‘morally’ (loaded word!) right for you MUST not be right/appropriate/acceptable for someone else. Then why bother? Let us let each other be……

So as far as KANK’s Pandora’s box goes……………..Booooooooooooooooooooo

Kacha-Pani

I have played this game as a kid.

Smashed glass bangles. Multi-coloured. Tossed lighly with hands. Then slowly, painstakingly, diligently, methodically removing each piece without disturbing the others.

But then I never had a time limit.

K Factor

My Friend(s): Are you serious? You are watching KANK(Kabhi Alvida Na Kehna for the uninitiated. Can there be anyone with blanket marketing?)? You have got to be out of your mind!
Me: C'mon I am not expecting a super creation. I am just going to watch beautiful people, beautiful clothes, beautiful locations and I already love the music of the film. Shankar Ehsaan Loy Rock!! What more do I need!! I am just going to go there and have fun!!!!

AND I COULD NOT HAVE BEEN MORE WRONG!

Oh God! I was wrooooooong! The movie was a disappointment in every which way I could think about. In order to use his usual success(!) formula he has made such a mess of a movie. If that movie has anything it is a series of clichés arranged in a pathetic way by the director. The actors are superb(except shahrukh), direction abysmal. Songs sound and look good (Farah Khan does a good job) but what happens before and after each song - terrible! The only good thing in the movie is scenes between Amitabh and Kiron Kher but they have not managed too much footage given the rest of the star cast. Also Abhishek Bacchan with Amitabh manages to entertain. But this is more to the credit of the performers that the directors. Beauty of clothes, people and locations is washed away by Shahrukh's pathetic attitude, abysmal acting and Rani's tears. God! She is always crying!! All I managed to get out of the movie was a headache.

Same friend(s) as above: So how was the movie??
Me: _________

PS: Morale of the movie: If you want to get over the obsessive compulsive disorder of cleaning have an extra-marital relationship.

A phenomenon called Sid

Today's rakhi and I fondly remember this phenomenon in my life called 'SID'.

He was my classmate in junior college and on one rakhi yeaaarrsss ago (well more than I care to admit!) we decided he was my brother. And he really became one in every sense. Apart from having a blast of a time all along we developed a special bond, an understanding and wordless communication. My clearly partial views about his actions and our tendency to cover for each other's mistakes is still legendary in the gang of my friends! He helped me through traumas in my relationship and pre-marital stress!! I have faithfully provided shoulder to women he dumped and to him when women dumped him! I still do it!!!! :)

We were not in the same senior college and life took us further apart (geogrpahically) after that. But NOTHING changed. Nothing at all. He still is one of the people my heart seeks if I am very happy or sad and I daresay thats mutual!

God knows how many rakhis ani bhaubij we have missed in past 3-4 years. The promises that we have made to each other to catch up, spend time and oh yes, buy gifts!! Have been consistently unable to do any of this. And I know we would remain consistent in this behaviour!

And I like it this way!!

Kudos to Kiddo

My kid sis's flying off to USA today for 'higher' (!) education. She has gotten into Purdue for MS in Structures. Not a mean feat, mind you!

So here's a blog dedicated to her. (Though she has not read too many of these!!)

Girlie, go out there and freak out! Have fun, travel, party and make friends.

Kudos to you!!!

Tai

Self-Doubt

If there ever is that one thing that corrodes and kills potential it is self-doubt.

Importance of positivity is tremendously under-stated in our day-to-day lives.(Only preachy self help books have it and hate them!)

Optimism does not absolve hard work and intellect but increases the sum total of these and other parts.

It is said that the environs say 'tathastu' - 'so be it' all the time (in Hindu mythology) and hence one must watch what one is saying &/or thinking.

I am an atheist.

But given the importance of positive(not wishful - there is a vast difference in two) thinking I would rather tell myself to believe it.

But will I listen??

Bang-Self Doubt!